Forgiving the Affronts of Life
We are all affronted in life. That is, we bear many open insults and everyone will struggle with the injustices implicit within such offenses. It’s the world’s way to get even; many also argue it was the Old Testament way – an eye for an eye, etc. The world, as well as our flesh, insists on the obvious justice; to ensure they (or we) give the perpetrator the justice he or she deserves. It runs by instinct. But there is, altogether, a better justice; a superior justice; a moral justice beyond the law.
Words, They Dignify or Destroy
We all get angry and say things we come later to regret. This is just part of being human. But when negative patterns form, especially patterns of criticism or condemnation, those we love are affected to the point of not only low self-esteem, but their overall sense of themselves takes a hit. Negative patterns aside, those with the gift of encouragement speak the wonders of love into those lives on the receiving end. Perhaps nothing lifts a soul into the stratosphere of serendipity than a kind word, for the appropriate reason, in good season. It is clear that words either dignify or destroy.
What Is Polyamory?
With the recent debut of Showtime’s new docu-series, POLYAMORY: MARRIED AND DATING, which explores alternative relationship structures such as consensual non-monogamy, we’ve been getting a lot of questions about the nature of polyamory. As we stated in last week’s blog, polyamory is practiced by couples who believe that they can also have deep, committed, long-term and loving relationships with people other than their spouse. Our fear is that a lot of people will see the TV show – and much like the country’s reaction to the book 50 Shades of Grey – immediately dive into “trying out” poly…
Selecting Your Own Gene Pool
Selecting a partner for his or her gene pool is only half the story. The other half is the living together and the parenting.
The Two-Sided Mirror: Healing From Deep Family System Wounds and Ongoing Sibling Rivalry
Using an email exchange I have had with a client, I talk about a common personal dilemma in adults: how to come to terms with the innate and strong wish to have and maintain family relations while enduring the ongoing, long-term results of damning and damaging family secrets and the visceral memory of deeply felt childhood harm, even if only partially remembered or not remembered at all. I thought it worth sharing because of the common-ness of such circumstances between siblings even, and perhaps especially, after the death of both parents. It also asks and reviews many questions that are common to those who struggle with life-long patterns of unresolved and hurtful sibling rivalry.